Today’s episode is a little different than the normal wealth topic. Today, Mary asks the question of how do you get somebody who doesn’t love themselves to recognize your love?
It’s easy to fall in love with people who don’t love themselves. They’re vulnerable, raw and often broken inside who need attention, which is a job that happens to appeal to a lot of people.
In the same way that there is no rule book for dealing with someone who is self-loathing, there is no rule book for loving someone who is living with it.
There are no rules for you to follow when people start a path of self-destruction in one form or another. They often cause just as much pain to those around them as they do to themselves.
There are no rules for what to do when someone starts excessive drinking or drug use at 9am to dull the pain that reaps inside them. There is often no solution you can prescribe to calm them down when they go in to a fit of anger and despair.
There are no rules or scripts for those darkest times when he or she will disappear off the radar, sending fear and worry throughout the people who care about them the most.
And yet, you cannot choose the family you are born into and often the fate of falling in love with the wrong person.
We all like to feel needed. More importantly, we like to feel like we could be the missing piece of the puzzle for someone. Many of us delight in the possibility that we could be the cure to whatever ails a person. The gift of salvation from one human being to another. There is probably no greater feeling.
As it happens, it’s nearly impossible to have a meaningful relationship with someone who has tragically low self-esteem or self worth. Rather than it feeling like a relationship between two equals, it will always be two people on different level of consciousness.
Ask yourself what kind of love you think you deserve. If you keep on finding yourself falling for damaged relationships, you have to wonder if you yourself are damaged. Otherwise, why would you subject yourself to this cycle of hurt? It’s like investing in a money pit of a house or a lemon of a car. You can devote all your time to fixing them up, to making them look better, but in most cases, it’s just going to end up breaking down on you.
Everybody deserves happiness and the best version of love. If you don’t believe this, you’re robbing yourself. If you don’t believe this, maybe you really are the one who doesn’t love themselves
So if you find you are sacrificing too much of your own well-being in service to a family member or significant other’s needs; if you’re frustrated from feeling that your caring efforts are wasted; or if you feel that your own needs are being neglected or suppressed, something needs to change. And that something is YOU!
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